I went onto my Facebook today, something I do not tend to do all that often anymore and there was a link from one of my friends,
Kasey Edwards- Letter to My Mum
I highly recommend it, its letter written by a lady called Kasey Edwards and I do not think I have ever read anything more true.
This is what my husband and I were talking about last night. Society is screwed up, it is a bully, it destroys a persons self confidence, self love and ruins relationships. It tells little kids (girls and boys) that the only way to be beautiful is to be skinny, have your ribs showing, no thigh gap, perfect face, perfect hair and perfect teeth. It destroys souls, hearts, love, families, people. It drives some to suicide, self harm, mental illness and the need to seek approval through various activities including sleeping around and never believing you are good enough you look good enough.
Why should a person be based on their looks, isn't each person perfect for them? For who they are? For them? No two people are the same, even identical twins would have one or two slight differences, a freckle, nail shape etc. Why should I be criticized because I don't look like Angelina Jolie, Honestly I don't care to either. Firstly I am me not her and secondly she has got scarily thin.
How are we supposed to teach our children to love one another, that everyone is different and that's ok, that no matter what people look like, no matter there race, gender etc that we need to accept them for who they are. If the media and society wont bugger off and embrace individuality.
How are we suppose to teach our children that its ok to be religiously diverse? That no matter your sexual orientation you are still human and still a person and that you are ok and should not be treated any differently to the straight person the other side of you? When a person can get fired or refused a job because they are fat? Or a 10 year old girl told she is too fat loose weight or she will never be pretty? That a teen is told no-one will ever love them because their teeth are crooked?
Then when the 10 year old develops an eating disorder and starts making herself vomit, she is abused for being sick and acting stupid, when her ribs start showing shes too sick and ugly. The teen with the crooked teeth, how is her self esteem meant to be high when no-one wants to be her friend until she has them fixed.
Society and Media are hypocrites, and the worst form of bullies, they are ones that you cannot escape, that is hard to stand up to. They are the ones that cause more heartache then they are worth. I would rather a world without any form of social media, newspapers, trashy magazines, tv then I would one full of pain and suffering.
I personally am 164cm and weigh 88kg. I have put on 30 kgs since I had my first child, 10 years ago at 18 years old. I carry it mostly in my stomach and thighs. I have stretch marks on my stomach, hips, breasts, thighs. I have cellulite, I have horrible hair that's starting to get grey strands, I'm not even 30! I drink too much coffee, enjoy my chips (crisps) far too much. I wear a size 14-16. I don't play sport, I dedicate that time to my 4 kids sports. I have horrible coordination and would much rather curl up with a book or cook then play a game of netball. I love walking but don't get the chance as much as I should. But I am going to start as its relaxing. I HATE planned exercise. I really do. I own exercise equipment and never use it. Id rather walk, hike or rock climb. Life in my eyes should be about an active busy life not finding 2 hours a day to go to the gym.
So to the world I say SCREW YOU!!!!! I am who I am. I am proud. Yes I want to get healthier, But my god if i want that piece of cake or a hearty meal because I feel like it I WILL. I am going to teach my children the truth behind the bullying, behind the pain. I am going to teach them that even as young as 2 we can say to the world Shove Your Views. I will be ME, I will be FREE, you WILL NOT ruin me, not anymore. I will be healthy not thin. I will love my imperfections and embrace who I am. I will be individual. I will love what I want, wear what I want, look how I want. And you will love me for it or leave. I don't care. If I am a size 10 or 22. I WILL me for me, my friends and family WILL do the same. I will not allow society induced bullying in my house, in my life.
YOU ARE PERFECT! YOU ARE LOVED! JUST THE WAY YOU ARE! BE YOU AND BE FREE!
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