Firstly, Hi and welcome to my life. I hope
that I can help you even in one small tiny way, just enough to make a bad day a
little bit better, a sad face a little bit happier and a stressed out parent a
bit more relaxed.
I’m a “young mum” and will always be a teen
mum at heart. I had my oldest beautiful daughter at 18. She was a pleasant
unexpected, arrived 10 years earlier than planned gift to my husband and I. She
was followed by a wedding, then her energetic brother, another brother, 3
angels and cheeky little sister and another angel brother.
It’s been a long tough 10-11 years. One of
ups and downs, Heart felt joy and heartache. But we have made it through. It
hasn’t always been easy, there has been some truly dark moments, but family and
friends is what keeps us going.
I love helping people, I love doing what I
can to make someone feel better, even if its just an ear at night, cooking for
them, watching their kids, or in some cases sharing my experiences and helping
them through it.
I love being me a full-time stay at home
mum, I do not work. I have tried it and honestly I found it was too much for my
kids, my husband and myself. I hated going to work everyday and leaving my kids
in care, I hated the child carer knew them better than I did. I hated that I
had to ask when and how long my baby slept for, what did they eat? I was
miserable. We where ordering more take away, I was too tired to cook, I was
working 8 hours a day, studying and trying to do all the mother and wife
duties. My kids where tired getting up at 6am to start the day to get to care
in time for their Dads work (it was easier for him to take them as our carer
was out of town where Hubby worked). The time they got home depended on Hubby
job that day. It could be as late as 7pm. It was horrible, so when the
opportunity came to quit almost 10 months after starting I did. This was the
third time I had tried working before that was after my oldest was born. I
tried aged care, but shift work and hubby’s unreliable hours made child care a
nightmare. Our family lived in different towns and the family in town helped
where they could but they too had lives, and our shift changes and hours meant
no-one ever seen each other. Once again we all hated it so I quit, and found
out later I was pregnant with my first son.
During and after both these failed
attempts, I decided to try party planner with a lingerie and clothing company.
I loved it, sales, people, free clothes, my own hours it was fantastic. But
living in the country party planning has its fall backs. Firstly you know
everyone and its embarrassing to buy lingerie from someone you know, secondly
as with everything the fad sweeps through and leaves, thirdly in order to make
sales I had to travel and by the time I paid for host gifts, stock, petrol,
child care if needed I was breaking even or at a loss. I also had issues with
people smoking near my products and leaving a horrible smell on it all, which
took a pile of febreeze and airing to get rid of. So I left that too.
The only place that truly works for my
family in which we are all happy, relaxed, not wasting money, have family time
is at home. I have no issues with working if the occasion called for it. But I
am lucky as we can make it work. I fell pregnant in year 11 so I never finished
High school or University so there is no pressure to make my degree work or to
pay of student loans. I have since completed a Certificate 4 in Finance
(Bookkeeping) with the intention of working from home, but due to regulation
changes, unless I go out and work for someone else for several years first to
gain experience I cannot do it. On the plus side my Cert 4 is an equivalent to
a High School Certificate so I am pleased about that.
Hubby loves that I stay home, it gives him
the flexibility to work as needed, knowing the kids are taken care of, he is
not coming home to an on-slaught of jobs and cleaning, meals are homemade and
not take away and to be honest financially we are better off. But I will
explain that part later.
I have no quams with working Mums. I understand each persons situation is
different, some have no choice, some choose to due to disliking staying home.
Some have their partners stay home, there are a million reasons why a mother or
father chooses to stay home or work. And that’s up to the parent(s).
Will I work when my kids are all older and
in school? I’m not sure. My youngest is 2 and won’t start Kindy until 2016,
with new age limits. But by the time I do school run, clean, organise the days
meals, bake what needs to be done, tend the garden, deal with the errands and
shopping it will soon be time to pick up kids. We have 4 kids, 3 of with play
sport that takes up 2-3 days a week. Next year this will increase to 3-5 days,
and a husband who plays sport 2 days a week. I will not have time after work to
play catch up. Id love to own my own business, so we will see.
My blog is about a normal, everyday family,
something probably boring to some or even most. But
that’s ok. Its not for everyone. I will share my recipes, how I do things, what
I’m doing. My frustrations, thoughts, happy moments, I will have my tantrums
and giggles. I want to make it clear that whilst I am Christian and I believe
in God and have a strong faith, whilst I do attend Church (when we can) this
blog will not be a Christian based blog, there will not be references on every
post, nor will there be prayers, or direction on how to do things according to
the bible. I will go into my faith
in another post to explain it more. I also advocate “normal”, “wholesome”,
“everyday”, “healthy”, “moderation” lifestyles, diets and all that mumbo-jumbo.
I do not believe in cooking with foods I cant buy easily, can’t pronounce, or
looks like something my cat- threw up. I apologies if you like that food. I
believe in old fashioned, home cooked foods. With the occasional mummy’s absolutely
knackered so this arvos snack is a packet of chips/crisps.
We are trying to slow our lives down,
become more laid back, relaxed and eat healthier and natural but Im also a
realist and everyone needs a treat every now and again.
Well that’s all. Yes I can talk, dribble
on, carry on and bore quite easily. Please enjoy my blog I will try to post
regulary at least weekly, please bear in mind I have kids so its not always
easy. So please have a coffee, or tea or wine and enjoy Where The Heart Dreams….
Love Bec xxxx
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